Talking about parenting with your partner-section 11

In this section, Sara talks about how you should talk about parenting with your partner.

Parenting literally takes an army, but one of the most important people included in that army, should be your spouse.  Shane and I have both agreed and disagreed on many parts during this parenting journey.

Speaking with each other and being on the same page, is a task to accomplish, but it is so important!  Our two year old little girl, picks up on everything and she totally tries to work both of us to get what she wants.

One major topic that we discussed early on was whether or not to put Brielle in daycare.  After a WHILE of talking/thinking/praying about it, we chose to not put her in daycare, and have my parents babysit while I was working.  To this day, that is still how it works out, and we couldn’t be more blessed!

Another recent major topic, that we are not FULLY set on yet (more because of my reservations), is to homeschool or not.  I write a blog post (here) about which is best between public vs homeschool, and I love different aspects about them both.  I am just going to continue to teach Brielle new stuff each week,  expand her knowledge and experiences, and teach her as much as I can throughout her life!

While no two people can be perfect, we can always strive to be better versions of ourselves!  May this next year bring new experiences and more joy than ever before!

 

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Crafting time with Brielle~

Crafting time with Brielle~

This crafting project started out with a great garage sale deal $20 for a big dresser with a mirror! I knew right away, that it would be the perfect dresser (with a LOT of work) for Brielle’s new room!

I didn’t know how to get started, or what I was planning on doing with anything.  I was looking at ALL of these painting projects on pinterest, and was easily getting WAY too overwhelmed with how much paint/materials/time it took to complete a project, the size of a dresser.

I never get “free time” away from Brielle, when I am at home, so I know I had to do something that could involve her, and was fairly easy!

For the supplies I used:

-Crimson Acrylic Chalk Paint

-Crimson Chalk Paint brush (pretty expensive! $10)

-Krylon Fusion black gloss spray paint

-Zebra colored fabric for the re-upholstering of the chair (1 yard was on sale at Walmart!)

First, I took everything apart! (Took the mirror off of the back, all of the pull out drawers out, took all of the hardware off).

Then decided to start on the dresser first, and paint everything (with the help of an eager toddler) that I could after I thoroughly cleaned it (it was an old dresser and very dirty).  Next off, was the mirror.  I painted the outside of the mirror, without having to take the glass off–SCORE).

The next morning  after cleaning all of the drawers (when Brielle was distracted doing something inside), I spray-painted the drawers, and all the hardware. It was not as hard I thought, but it took a while to dry outside.

After everything was dry (so we thought!), we took the furniture to the new house, and I focused on reupholstering the chair (which was not fun!), and finished painting it, and I must say, the final product doesn’t look half bad!

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For this project, I just used a screwdriver to unscrew the chair, and re-used the nails that were in the bottom of the chair already.  Not hard, just time-consuming!
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At the time, it was missing a hardware piece for the top right drawer, but it now has one! 🙂 Oh and gotta love the paint stain on the new carpet! (I will try REALLY hard today to get it out)

While it definitely is FAR from perfect, I must say with a couple of layers of chalk paint, it definitely made a TREMENDOUS difference in the look of this dresser, and I am so GLAD she now she has in her new room.  And she will be able to show off to people how she painted it “with mommy”.

 

 

 

Releasing Parental Pressures

In this fourth section of the 30 days towards connected parenting, Rachel speaks about releasing some of the many pressures that “society” places on us parents.  I definitely felt a LOT of pressure after soon becoming a parent to breastfeed my baby solely since I have heard the phrase “breast is best” MORE times than not.  When I failed at that by not producing enough milk, I felt like I was a failure at supplying what my daughter needs, but also felt shame from society/friends that I couldn’t nourish my baby with my body.

It was an eye opening experience that I felt SUCH a great amount of failure so early on in my parenting.  With the help of Shane and my mom, I was definitely able to continue to breastfeed/pumping and supplementing formula as well. I loved what journey Brielle and I had and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

Do you other moms feel like you have to be the boss of your children? I feel like that is my role at work, my role in many situations in life, and also “one” of the titles given to me during my parenting.  I hate for Brielle to disagree, or just have a full on “tantrum” when she just point blank doesn’t do what I WANT her to do, right that minute.. So it begins with the bribing, threats of time out and follow through with them if deemed necessary, and discipline.  I never just realized in those moments of wanting her to just listen and do what I say the first time, might be just not what she wants to do right then and there.  And it’s OK.  I have worked this past week on just getting down on her level, talking through things with her instead of barking orders, and realizing that more gets done when we work as a TEAM, instead of me being the boss of her.  I have seen SO much difference in the way she interacts with me, and I truly hope to only continue and nourish our growing relationship, so that a door never gets closed so early on, that will be so hard to re-open again later in life.

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What is your biggest pressure either implied or otherwise? Voice it below and begin to let it go!