The “talk”

talk

So on Monday,  I had to do the thing that I have been dreading since the day the boys came to us and they said “they might be up for adoption one day in your near future” to Shane and I.  Little did I know though, that the process to get here would take this long, and take such an emotional toll on everyone involved.

After termination of rights happen (which you can find a little more about what happened at our trial here), then CPS must tell the children what is about to happen, and that they will only have one more visit with their parents known as the “goodbye visit”.

The legal worker arrived on Monday afternoon to our house, and spoke to me outside for a minute stating that she would like me to start the conversation with the boys and she will feed off what I say, and then allow them to ask any questions that they are wondering/thinking.

I can’t go into a LOT of detail about word for word on how the conversation went, but let let me tell you..telling them that they will no longer have any contact with their parents after this last visit, and knowing how much that must truly hurt to hear, pulled at my mama heart strings so much.

I know the conversation needed to happen, especially for my 8 year old foster son because he was the one was so bonded to them, and wanted his parents to “stop doing bad stuff”, so he could go back home to them. He broke down sobbing when he realized what was happening, and I just held him so tight in his room while he weeped into my chest.  It truly broke my heart.  My 6 year old foster son, definitely handled the news way better than I thought he would, but he could be masking his emotions as well.  His phrase after myself and the legal worker were done talking was “that’s great, now we can get adopted!” and my 3 year just told me “I don’t know what you’re talking about” and then started laughing.  I even broke it down into toddler terms, and I am not quite sure he even understood it then.

I hope and pray that God continues to give them strength, just like it says in Isaiah 40:31 “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint”.

Please keep the Johnsons in your thoughts and prayers as we are transitioning into new and abundant stages in our life and our journey! ♥♥

©2017 Sheridan Johnson @Journey with the Johnsons. All Rights Reserved.

One thought on “The “talk”

  1. David Edward's Diary says:

    Sounds sad, especially for the older children. At least they know, upfront that they are being adopted and may get over it in time. I’ve seen some cases where the parents didn’t let the children know that they weren’t their real parents until they were 18. I was adopted twice as a baby. I don’t recall the process. I was too young. I know my real mom.

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